Well, The re-inspection was last night and needless to say, I'm done. Home-no-more.
For now, I'm going with my instinct and staying put. They did really shoddy repairs, and didn't even touch the important structural ones, what they did do was shameful at best. I'm so glad I put the contingent into the contract of a positive re-inspection. I am liable for nothing but money already spent.
So now I'm feeling a bit gun-shy. When I came home last night to my brand new, albeit rented, condo, I felt a feeling of relief. relief that everything is in "new" condition, beautiful, and known. I know it is a waste of money to rent, but when I think of the life I have become accustomed to, I get scared with the change of something unknown. So I'm putting my house buying "need" on hold for now. I will continue to look causually, but not with an urgent need. I will go back to the "I can afford to go on vacation without guilt, drop loads of $ at target without a thought, come and go as I please existence. And that makes me feel great happiness. Whoever said buying a house is stressful, didn't stress it enough.
I think I grew 5 new ulcers during the last two months of this ordeal, and can back away from it now and get some distance, before I try again.
The loss of money spent was a lesson well learned and I definitely feel more prepared and knowledgable for the future.... but also realize that maybe I'm just not ready. Weird, since motherhood carries not even a twinge of scariness for me, but homeownership on my own.... totally different story. I'll get there when the time is right. I have to go with my instincts and right now the second guessing this decision was smacking me in the face with the fact that this home was not ready for me. It needs someone who is willing to sacrifice and work to make it a home, and I don't have the time or the resources to accomplish that. So instead, I will buy that car I so desperately need, take the vacation I was putting off, and enjoy my summer without a care in the world.
I will make the goal of looking again this winter, putting my all into it, and knowing that I WILL at some point accomplish this.
I'm not sad it about anymore.. I'm looking forward to things to come.
11 comments:
So sorry this house didn't work out. Glad you got out of the deal before having to make mortgage payments on a lemon.
You have such a positive attitude. That's great. You'll find the perfect house. :)
It just wasn't meant to be...
But, I've been a homeowner for ten years now, and I know you will love owning your home someday. My house has enabled me to do so much. It is a such a blessing.
Keep looking. I found mine when I wasn't even serious about buying. The price was so right. The location perfect. A month later, it was mine. :-)
We thought about moving once
and after we changed our mind
it felt like a million pounds
was lifted! It really worked
out for the best! Very happy
we decided not to make
that change!!!
Sorry to hear about your House of Blues but at least you can breathe now. It will happen when the time is right. Now, go do some car shopping!
There are nice homes out there with legitimate owners who cared for them. You will find one. I'm sorry that this didn't work out, but I'm proud of you to be not so caught up in everything that you were willing to purchase a money pit. Smart woman!
I've been in the exact same position - I still mourn the "home that could have been". However, I did find my current house after looking at about 100 more and it's the one that makes it possible for me to adopt. The other one was way too small and would have sucked all my money in repairs and restoration.
You will find the right house!
So sorry the house didn't work out for you, but you will find the one that is just right when all your fears are calmed.
Bummer the house didn't work out. But I know what you mean. I am still renting also and until I find the perfect place, I'm going to keep renting...it's nice to be able to call a landlord if something goes wrong!
I'm so sorry about the house. We lost 2 houses before we got the one we are in. I can totally sympathize...it sucks.
You will find another house and it will be even better!
Heather
What a stressful situation. You do have a great perspective on it though. When you get a chance, please fill us in on your now possible expenditures...vacay? Car? Fun purchases to be sure!
You definately made the right decison. I love owning my home but often fantasize about a condo! Sometimes it's so overwhelming as a single female worrying about repairs and stuff that needs to be done that I just don't WANT to do (like weed eat the yard in 90 degree weather) Plus having extra $ for Target is pay off in itself! :)
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