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Friday, September 21, 2007
Calling all BTDT...
Did you ever just have one of those nights when you just want to call "him"? The man that took over your life for ten years, left you heartbroken, and bitter. I'm having one of those nights. And I'm struggling to get past it. To not pick up the phone. I don't know why. I haven't spoken to him in over a year, truly close to two. Maybe it's the overwhelming fear of my job right now, he was good for my ego in that area. But anyway, I'm calling all of you instead of him. I don't usually need the pep talk, but I do this week, the urge is still ever present and it is hard...
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I don't have any great advice for you - just the typical 'Hang in there - I'm sure you'll do great!' It's just another challenge to overcome, and in your line of work I'd say you've already done very well...
John (Heather's hubby)
Unless you think you will not have any regrets after you hang up with him - DON'T DO IT!!! I know it's hard but be strong. In reading your blog I know that you are a strong woman and can get through this :o)
Suzie
LID 9/4/2006
I know that it's very hard when you're struggling in an area of your life to not have someone to draw close to for support. If this person doesn't have your best interests at heart, then he doesn't deserve to fill that role for you. Call a close friend instead, or just go to sleep to avoid the temptation.
((hugs))
Hey Ten...
Listen girl, I'll email you more tomorrow (got a house guest right now - Pammy!). But for now, all I can say is I know where you're at, I have been there many, many times before. Find what it is in yourself that will give you the strength and security you need right now. If you need to put your wine goggles on to find it, then do it! lol...
But seriously, write everything down that you're unsure of and doubting right now, and then next to it, write down what you can do to squelch that feeling (and now I'm not talking about wine...lol). More like, what can you do on your own to change that feeling? If that doesn't work, sometimes a good cry makes you feel better too... and then wine :)
We can totally chat Sunday night if you want and we can discuss more then. You are a strong, strong woman girlie. You are Julia's mom - how can you not be? You have already done something that .001% of single women in this country do - travel to another country to become someone's momma. That, in and of itself, makes you a giant in my eyes, and it validates to me how really strong you are...
I love ya Ten...
-Head
Hi Kristen,
DON'T DO IT!
call your friends, shop, read blogs, write something to Julia...anything you can do to NOT call HIM!
I never had that problem-- once the EX was out of my life, I never looked back once.
I'm sorry you're having a tough time at work...but you are good at what you do and you have your adminstrations' support. That's a blessing.
I'm pulling for you!
JoAnn
I'm with Joannah on this one. Don't call him, he isn't worthy of your life.
nope definately not...DON'T DO IT...i did it years ago....the big call after my friends had left after an evening of wine ..DUMB DUMB DUMB...and its something i'll always regret...of course he was polite but i was an idiot for calling..i was doing so well too and all that phone call did was tell him that i was soooooo not over him. All that hard work was just thrown out the window...don't give into the s o b! It's been over 20 years since i made that call...and now i can't even believe i was with someone like him for THAT long...it DOES get easier...and you WILL get over him..."time heals all wounds they say"...
Kristen,
I just read this note on your blog and could totally feel where you were coming from. I have been there and wanted so badly to call him, but didn't. The pain does not go away easily, but it will get better. I am most upset with my guy for robbing me of eleven years of my life.
It seems like you have a lot of people supporting you, Hang in there.
Lisa
LID 4/29/07
There was a time when he meant comfort, we've all been there. And I'd say pick up the phone if you would feel better and not regret it two minutes after you hung up.
But if regrets are in order, then I say crawl into bed with something warm to drink and read a book or magazine, call a friend who understands you down to the soul. This will pass. Just be strong.
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